One of the biggest questions people ask about life with a spinal cord injury is: what is sex like? Can you even have sex? Can you still feel it? Does it feel good?
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Can Anyone Use the IntimateRider To Increase Sexual Mobility?
The IntimateRider is a disability sexual aid that helps you achieve a natural, fluid movement for an improved sexual experience with your partner. The chair is covered with comfortable denier nylon and has a sturdy back for stability and comfort. Precision bearings provide smooth movement that feels natural, not mechanical, and require only minimal upper body motion to attain movement. The IntimateRider was designed by a quadriplegic and can be used by many people with spinal cord injuries and other physical limitations. Spinal cord injuries vary depending on the person and the type of injury. Paraplegia typically causes loss of movement and sensation in the torso and legs, where quadriplegia can impact the torso, arms and legs. Spinal cord injuries can also affect sexual function, though this can sometimes be helped with prescribed medication or surgical implants. It is important to understand your body and the extent of your injury before deciding whether the IntimateRider sex chair is right for you and your partner. Transferring in and out of the sexual mobility chair does require hand and arm use and slight movement of the upper body is required to achieve the natural gliding motion.
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Unfortunately, many of them seem to require a level of strength, balance and flexibility not often seen outside of an acrobatics competition. For people with physical disabilities, in particular, it might feel that an adventurous sex life, or even sex at all, might feel out of reach. The first thing to highlight is that there is no right or wrong way to have sex. Sex education and the media seem to suggest that the only sex worth having is penetrative or PIV penis in vagina sex. Our physical limitations, energy levels or pain might make certain sexual acts difficult or just not enjoyable. There are so many other ways to enjoy each other: oral and anal sex; penetrating a partner with your fingers; using sex toys or simply enjoying intimate cuddles, touch or massage. Being in a lying down position can be great if you get fatigued easily or have limited mobility. However, lying flat is not always the best or most accessible way to do things, particularly if you have back or hip pain. Using pillows to support, lift or stabilise your body is a great way to stay in a comfortable position for you. Using a pillow beneath your knees can help relieve strain on your back and gives your partner a deeper angle to grind against.
Your desire to be close and intimate with a partner is valid regardless of what your body can and cannot do. For a long time, however, many people assumed that sex was difficult or impossible for people with disabilities. Educational materials almost always used able-bodied examples to teach students about sex and a vast percentage of the aging population responded to the bias accordingly. For years, we lived with very few resources while nursing our blue balls, but the time has finally come for things to change. These days, incredible intercourse is more relevant and reachable than ever before, even and especially for people with disabilities. The world finally understands and appreciates that.
